How to Love People in Spite of… ?

Question:

Hello Rémy, 

Quite simply, how do you love people deeply in spite of their faults that sting us inside?
How do you open your heart?

It’s so simple, but for me so complicated without judging...
Relationships can be so narrow, inauthentic, so superficial that it weighs on me.
It’s the fear of really being who we are that hinders us in opening the heart, isn’t it?

Thanks for your shares.

Infinite gratitude 

Aurélie

Answer:

Hi Aurélie,

What all these questions have in common is Judgment, and your conclusion partly answers it. But I’ll elaborate to articulate the concepts and bring you as best I can to the vibrational coherence that allows you to understand beyond the mind, and so feel the Self-Evidence.

When you manage to dodge all judgment, starting by ceasing to judge, then you will be in mastery and will know how to love everyone unconditionally since they will no longer have faults in your eyes. You will see the worst murderer as a simple ignorant, and your compassion toward him will be spontaneous, because you won’t have needed to judge before deciding.

What stings you inside is your fear that judgment is real.

To open your heart as you say, that is, to love unconditionally, you must already be in mastery, otherwise the temptation to judge that comes from your mind-ego will take over at the slightest emotion, or at the slightest judgment buried under a vibrationally low belief that you haven’t yet let go of.

That is why the path of mastery begins with the firm decision to let go of our involutive beliefs, because their low vibration takes us away from the Truth. And without vibrating this Truth through you, that is, Authenticity, you cannot truly be in unconditional Love permanently. You can be so only when your mind-ego allows it, that is, in mentally comfortable conditions that fit your judgments still present. There it will make you believe you are in the right place because you’re surrounded by people who think like you, whereas it will simply have locked you in a comfort zone. And at the first individual you meet who doesn’t fit, you won’t manage to be in this unconditional Love. So it isn’t unconditional Love but affective love.

On the other hand, when you allow yourself to be authentic, you BECOME unconditional Love because you accept yourself for what you are and for what you feel you must embody in the present moment above any social, societal, religious or family approval. And as a projector, you project this True Love into your landscape. That is what radiating is, it’s not just saying pretty things or dressing attractively.

In summary, if you manage to stop judging yourself at every temptation of your mind-ego to judge you on what you said or should have said ACCORDING TO IT, on what you did or should have done ACCORDING TO IT, you will master your mind-ego on this, and the line of code of judgment will be erased from your paradigm. Thus, you will no longer judge anyone since it will have become deeply absurd, through the awareness that everything is you.

From there you are no longer in “WANTING to change people or things” (complaining or criticizing the outside), because you know that True Love lies in acceptance of the present, not in the will to modify it.

Then you begin to discover the power of BEINGNESS in the present, that state which accepts the outside and stays focused on the inside. Put differently, you will master your perception of the outside because you will no longer be parasitized by judgment. And you will do your best to master your vibrational state at every moment, because you know that everything comes from there.

Finally, when you can’t master your judgment of someone, I advise you to stop seeing them (or to stop watching the news if it’s a public figure who appears there). It is the only way not to leave a breach for your mind-ego to enter your sane mind with the temptation to criticize impulsively.

Don’t see weakness in this, because on the contrary, by recognizing that you are not in mastery in this situation, you progress on this path thanks to this humility that takes you away from pride. By moving away from the world of pride, you move away from the beliefs of the mind-ego. From there, you can watch it try to corrupt you while smiling at it with gratitude, because after all it is only a playmate who makes you progress.

Hugs

PS: There is no obligation to spend time with someone even if you master your judgment toward them. Being at Peace with someone doesn’t require being in a relationship with them. I talk about it here: https://remy-celmar-spiritual-sharings.blogspot.com/2023/01/forgiveness-reconciliation-and-company.html